Becoming a parent is one of the most exciting and vastly rewarding experiences an individual can encounter. It’s also emotionally and physically overwhelming and at times a little daunting, especially in the early days. Men in particular also feel a heightened (if not scary) sense of responsibility when their family grows, which can create stress.
New fatherhood is a time of profound change. In the instant you become a parent, your responsibility increases; the dynamic of your relationship with your partner shifts and this transition from childless to family happens very quickly. Therapy can help you process these changes and prepare you with the skills you need to cope and to flourish in your new role as a father.
It’s All About Mom?
In our culture, much of the emotional support and attention post-birth goes to the mother, because of the physical, emotional and mental demands of childbirth and postpartum recovery. But just like the moms, dads need affirmation that they’re heading down the right path too as they embark on this new journey.
It’s natural, because of childbirth, breastfeeding, and associated care that a lot of the attention is going to be given to your child’s mother. You may very well be feeling that your own needs are being pushed to the side to accommodate your new family. You may even be feeling guilty about feeling this way, but it is quite common.
Participating in therapy gives you a forum to voice these concerns in a non-judgmental, productive way.
The Bond
It can be a challenge for dads to establish that bond with their child in the early days, especially if the child’s mother is taking on most of their care. Some fathers feel that they are all thumbs at the beginning and that their partner judges their efforts harshly. Rest assured though that fathers have a unique and special bond with their children.
It takes time to grow a bond with someone after you meet them; the same can be said with a newborn. Going to therapy can give you the confidence you need to proactively grow that bond.
New Fatherhood & Depression
While Postpartum Depression is more common amongst new mothers, it is a phenomenon that occurs in new fatherhood as well. With the drastic changes and potential strain on relationships that come in the early days of your baby’s life, it’s not surprising that new dads are vulnerable to depression.
Some symptoms include intense anxiety or worry; loss of appetite; lethargy; lack of interest in hobbies or work; and lack of interest in sex.
If you are struggling to adjust to your new status as a father, seeking help is not a sign of weakness or a sign of failure; it’s a sign of strength because you are actively searching out the tools you need to be the best parent that you can be. To learn more about adjusting to new fatherhood or to speak with a therapist, call or contact us today at 202-641-5335.
